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Has your sex drive taken a nose
dive?
You're not alone. According to
findings published in the Journal of
the American Medical Association, an
estimated 43 percent of women
reported experiencing sexual
dysfunction. Problems ranged from a
lack of reaching orgasms to zero
sexual desire.
Dr. Julia P. Poytner, who is a
regular contributor to
sexual-health-info.blogspot.com,
pointed out 10 things that impact
your sexual desire and 10 ways to
put the vroom back in to your sex
engine:
Oral contraceptives can impact
the production of testosterone,
which is important to the blood flow
to your vagina and the sensitivity
of the vagina opening.
Solution: If you've noticed your sex
drive has declined since going on
the pill, Poytner advises talking to
your gynecologist to see if you
should switch to an ultra- low dose,
or 20 microgram, pill or to a
different birth control method, such
as an IUD or condoms.
Depression can cause you to not
only feel sad and worthless and
fatigued, but it also can reduce
your interest in sex.
Solution: If you suspect this is the
root of your derailed sexual libido,
seek professional counseling. Be
aware, though, that your physician
might recommend anti-depressants
that also can reduce your sex drive.
Let your physician know up front
that the depression has affected
your sex drive. Also let your
physician know if the condition
worsens or doesn't change with
anti-depressant treatment.
Antidepressants, such as Prozac
and Paxil, are big culprits in
lowering libido and impairing
orgasms. Other culprits:
blood-pressure-lowering drugs, which
can interfere with nerve signals;
and antihistamines, which not only
dry up sniffles but also zap your
vaginal lubrication.
Solution: Talk to your physician
about the effects of the drugs so he
or she can adjust your medication
that does not affect your sex drive.
And, using Zestra (zestraforwomen.com),
over-the-counter topical botanical
oil that you massage on the
clitoris, labia and vaginal opening
during foreplay, enhances arousal
and orgasm. In the case of dryness
caused by antihistamines, a
water-based lubricant can be used
during sex.
Poor body image. Your partner
might think you're the hottest sex
kitten in the world. But if you're
not feeling great about your body,
hair or even skin, you likely won't
purr with abandon.
Solution: Do a "cue analysis."
Recall the time when you felt on top
of your game sexually. What were you
wearing? How were you eating and
exercising? And what perfume and
shoes made you feel hot? These cues
can help you slip back into your
sexy mindset and habits. Go out and
replace that little black dress that
doesn't fit anymore with one that
makes you feel good in the body you
now have. Or get back into an
exercise routine that will create
chemicals in your brain that lift
your mood and your energy levels.
Menopause leads to an abrupt drop
in estrogen, which reduces vaginal
lubrication. And it cuts production
of testosterone production in half,
which can trigger a sudden dip in
your sex drive. Add in the other
symptoms of menopause - weight gain,
fatigue and difficulty sleeping -
and your sex drive can nose dive.
Solution: Have an honest talk with
your physician. Once he or she rules
out other medical problems, try some
of these options: a doctor-approved
exercise regimen to improve blood
flow, using the botanical oil Zestra
during foreplay, self-pleasuring to
promote blood flow and incorporate
fantasy work to bring erotic
thoughts back into your mind. Talk
honestly with your partner about
your body changes and that just
because you need a lubricant doesn't
mean he doesn't still turn you on.
And try a vibrator, which is more
intense than a hand and can help
with dulled arousal. In some cases,
your physician might advise
prescribing oral or topical
testosterone to increase sexual
urges.
Health problems such as high
blood pressure, high cholesterol,
diabetes, thyroid disorders and
autoimmune disorders such as lupus
can all affect a women's sexual
desire.
Solution: Discuss your change in
libido with your physician. He or
she might prescribe medication to
treat the health condition, life
style changes such as exercising
more and eating healthier foods. Ask
your physician if a topical estrogen
might help.
Relationship problems can douse
your passion.
Solution: Don't ignore problem so it
becomes an emotional crises or leads
you and your partner to Splits
Ville. First, have your healthcare
provider rule out physical problems
that could cause a lower libido.
Regardless of the problems, you and
your partner need to communicate and
discuss and try to resolve the
issues in a quite place away from
distractions. If this doesn't work,
seek professional counseling.
Stress from juggling work, family
and friends, meeting deadlines and
paying bills is enough to send many
women diving into bed to hide under
the covers every night. Forget about
slipping into something sexy for a
little romp in the sheets.
Solution: Stress causes hormone
cortisol to increase and alters
testosterone and estrogen that
influence your sex drive.
Ironically, having sex - in
particular, having orgasms - is a
known stress reliever because the
chemical oxycotin is released during
sex. Oxycotin combats high cortisol
levels. But if you're too stressed
to romp in the sheets, find other
ways to relax first, such as
exercise, Yoga or meditation.
Childbirth and breastfeeding can
both impact sexual desires.
Childbirth can cause pelvic and
muscle damage, reducing genital
sensitivity. Breastfeeding reduces
levels of estrogen, which keeps the
vagina lubricated and flexible. This
could cause painful penetration.
Breastfeeding also increases the
hormone prolactin, which curbs
sexual desire. Add in postpartum
depression that some women
experience and sleep deprivation,
and sex is the last thing on your
mind.
Solution: Talk to your physician
about a change in sexual libido and
let him or her rule out physical
causes or postpartum depression.
Keep in mind that breastfeeding is a
temporary situation. Allow yourself
time to adjust to lack of sleep. In
the meantime, find ways to stay
connected to your partner by talking
or cuddling.
Bedroom monotony can cause sex to
become ho-hum.
Solution: Spice up your sex life
with some variety. Explore new
positions through books or videos.
Change the time of the day you have
sex. More importantly, find time to
reconnect with your partner, even if
it means hiring a babysitter so you
can book a romantic night out. |